Relationships and Spirituality

[Skyalmian]

If anyone here is feeling the way I once did, look up and know that this too will pass. Hold out for the GOLD of your hidden treasures within. IT is there.

I was wondering about the general pasts of you (in the context of what am about to explain) and the others you have been sharing Very High vibrations with here the last few weeks. I thought (and correctly apparently) that all the "Trials and Tribulations", you and the others had already gone through, long(?) ago, and where you are now is where you have been and are reaching Lighter / Higher. Your "Trials" are long passed but for many, they're either just beginning, or now climaxing after much turmoil (/me).

Yes, have often viewed that which we call Spirit, Soul and Body, as a computer like device.  The basic hardware of a computer (cabinet, memory, hard drive, USB hubs and ports,  is tantamount to ones soul and body. The Web, crudely put, would be that which we view as God, Source. Computers have a basic program called ‘an operating system’ that integrates all other programs into usable ‘input and outputs’.

Ah, I was about to make a post on "Computers and the Astral", comparing computers to ourselves and wondering how without them we would do the same exact things we can do today, but with ourselves somehow. I had not considered The Internet as Source, though. Things like collective collaborations still leave me wondering, though: in the case of a game or web server with many administrators who contribute, where would that information be stored? One person? A Quartz crystal? Meh... We use computers for Creativity, Expression, and Information sharing (as well as ease of creating things via software and the mediums to make them physical if need be). What has me also wondering is a possible global regression. If everything is lost for whatever reason, it would suck to have to go back to the limitations of performing creativity, expression, and information as it was 100+ years prior and earlier all the way back until the advanced ancient civilizations. But as things are moving forward and evolving (George Ure of Urban Survival spoke of levels of consciousness a while back and said how humanity has gone from tribal to now global and reaching for galactic and even universal consciousness) I don't see that happening, although the probability exists. If our present technology is lost, something has to replace it (inner abilities?) or else evolution would be crashed to a stop. /ponderings.

[Leila]

Hello, Friends!

Here is another appropriate article for us. Enjoy!

Much Love to All,

Leila

Friendships: Are You A True Friend?

Friday, 07 August 2009 23:53 Vina Life

http://www.evolvethe.com/wisdom/life/525-friendships-are-you-a-true-friend

What does it mean to be a true friend - a real 'solid gold' friend?

Mentally check in with all the people in your life right now. Who are they and what makes you friends with them? Are you fairweather buddies, kindred spirits, soul sisters or just friends of convenience? Like any other relationship you have in your life, friendships serve a purpose - whether it is for the connection, support, fun, growth or all the above.

Over the last few years, I started noticing a shift in connections within my own circle of friendships and acquaintances. As I began to personally evolve and change, some of my friendships no longer seemed to sustain the same level of connection they once had. Some drifted away naturally, but others were etched deeper in my heart and harder to let go.

In fact, I was really reluctant to let some of those friendships go. I believed some of those connections deserved more effort and I wasn't about to give up on any of them - especially given our history and past. As I began to evolve and head into another direction, some of these friendships didn't quite resonate with the 'evolving' version of who I was becoming. I had known some of these dear friends for years and they had meant the world to me. You know what I'm talking about - the highs and lows, the messy break-ups, tantrums, drama, fun, laughter and self-deprecating moments.

I wanted to bring them along to where I was heading - I saw their potential, their essence, their unique soul print; but they didn't. We all know you can't force a person to do the inner soul work of transformation unless they're ready, willing and able to take that first step themselves.

I wanted more authenticity and congruency in all areas of my life - including my friendships. If only I could nurture the connection I could salvage the friendship, but I found my efforts to be in vain and I became tired of all the sugar-coating and exchanging pleasantries. It didn't feel authentic anymore - there are enough people out there in the world wearing masks, keeping up appearances and their guard up, without adding friendship's brinkmanship to the list.

Having said that, the authentic person that you are never loses faith in people and their potential, especially those you care deeply about. It is important to remember to acknowledge people for where they've been, to love them for who they are and accept where they're at, whilst also leaving room for them to grow.

As with anything real and authentic, friendships thrive only when we have the courage to face our own fears - fear of exposing our vulnerabilities and rejections which requires a lot of courage and humility. Why the heck would any one of us want to take this risk? Because it is the only way to grow emotionally and spiritually - as well as in our connections with others. This is authentic intimacy. Good friendships are important to our overall health and well being - just like diet, health and exercise, but real friendships are critical to our soul, spirit, personal growth and development.

There are always going to be friends who pull you down, pull you up or keep you comfortably in neutral. Being aware of where we all are will keep you in check when maintaining clear lines of communication. Which one of these following categories do you and your friends fall into?

1. Energy vampires - these friends drain, deplete and suck your energy. It's a constant battle to be around them or in their presence - as you feel you always have to go along with their ideas and dance to the beat of their drum. They might be serial complainers or whingers bitching, gossiping and generally broadcasting negative or pessimistic energy when ever they're around. You feel tired and exhausted after being in their company. They tend to be over-bearing, dominant types with narcissistic personalities. Perhaps you may want to limit the time you spend with them, while still loving them unconditionally from a distance to the best of your ability.

2. Comforting neutrals - these people may be like yourself, sharing similar interests. You enjoy being in each other's company and feel better being around each other as you both exhibit understanding and generally don't rock the boat. However, the danger here is in remaining too 'comfortable' - sharing the good, but also anchoring in the bad and not necessarily conducive elements in the friendship. You know the ones - you meet up every week for coffee to chat about work, your love or family lives and remain in a pattern of 'co-dependency', keeping you in that same perpetual cycle for issues to re-emerge and keeping the status quo alive. Take caution - should one of you leap forward, the other party may feel threatened. Cultivate these friendships, but remain aware of the status quo and focus more on the positives than dwelling unnecessarily on the negatives.

3. Empowering energetics - these friends challenge you to stretch you beyond your comfort zone. They see the potential in you and have faith, determination and conviction in what they see in you. They may have a level of success in their lives that inspire and motivate you, providing you with a different possibility on how things could be for you should you step up and rise to the challenge. They believe in you, maybe more than you believe in yourself and encourage you to realise your full potential. They may not be the easiest to be around, simply because their nature challenges and demands the best from you. However, they will have a great impact on you should you want a more rewarding connection within yourself, your life and your relationships in general.

Take a good long hard look at all your current connections and friendships. If they aren't serving you well overall, perhaps you need to re-evaluate them. You don't need to burn any bridges - some friendships may slip away of their own accord in their own way but sometimes, you do have to draw the line and make the call to do what is necessary remain energetically and emotionally healthy, to keep on growing. If it means saying goodbye to those who aren't supportive of who you are or your evolving directions in life, then perhaps it is best to let it go for the time being. Given time and space, some friendships may come full circle and re-enter your life at a later stage so that you can both reconnect in a new and transformational way.

Here are a few quotes on friendships worth sharing for their resonance:-

* Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.

* Truth springs from arguments amongst friends.

* When a friend is in trouble, don't ask them if there is anything you can do - think of something appropriate and do it.

* A friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.

* It is one of the severest tests of friendships to tell your friend their faults; to love them that you cannot bear a stain upon them, and to speak painful truth through loving words - that is friendship.

* No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow.

About Author

Vina Von S is a post-Jungian analyst and considers herself grateful to be on this journey alongside other kindred spirits and visionary souls - envisioning a new evolution towards higher consciousness and love. She is also the founder of Brazen Synchronicity | The Art of Soulscaping Synchronicities and Brazen Synergies | The Entrepreneurial Speaking Circuit and a maverick social entrepreneur in her spare time.

For more info. visit www.brazensync.wordpress.com

[juliainkc]

Thank you Beloved Leila,

Sharing some quotes to add to your delicious stew on friendships;

In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.  It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.  We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.  ~Albert Schweitzer

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.  ~Elisabeth Foley

Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty.  ~Sicilian Proverb

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand.  ~Emily Kimbrough

The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch with, never saying a word, and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you've had.  ~Author Unknown

And in a most childlike way ~

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.  "Pooh!" he whispered.  "Yes, Piglet?"  "Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw.  "I just wanted to be sure of you."  ~A.A. Milne

So sure!! Love you Leila and All.

Your sister and friend,

Julia

[juliainkc]

Good Morning Sky,

I appreciate you loving thoughts. I just sense to share with you that what changed was my perception of what pain and suffering meant to me. Once I thought it was a cruel joke that the 'gods' played with those of us lesser beings ~ humans and we had to take it or else.

In my emptying out or more like getting tossed upside down and shaken out, I found that pain and suffering are LOVE's call to 'wake up', time to change. Truly. And that is what happened and it was a progression because we get very sleepy cozy, secure in our ways and change is a step by step doing in a moment by moment living however one must experience the inner desire for it first and this is what pain is for. I don't want to feel this way, stop this pain!! You know? And then your 'cries' are heard.

I won't go on here however I will say this, so many have Scienced GOD. GOD or THE ONE without a name, has become very cold and impersonal. I can't convince anyone that this is not so. I can only live in the knowing that GOD is very intimately interested in being included in our lives. Truth.

One of the best descriptions given for me on ego was from the contributors above on Self Love. Ego is Excluding GOD's Omnipresence in your life.

Just a head's up. You are exactly where you are to be according to this Omnipresent ONE who sees you even when you do not see IT.

I trust this will uplift you today as this is my Heart's intention. GOD, or whatever you call your nameless ONE is very much Present with you and will bring you 'back' home no matter how long or what it takes. Because your True name is shared with this ONE. And it is LOVE.

InJoy this day Sky and All, as I am off to do,

Love Spirit embracing you,

Julia

[juliainkc]

Hello Everyone!

I am interweaving today. Here there and everywhere.

Alot of my experiences have been in coming along side of those whom have had deep issues with their family of origin. Root First chakra. And also those whom had issues with their social families or communities. Root Second chakra.

I have been blessed to move through these things by standing firm throughout the years even in boot shaking moments. I heard the Voice saying, do not draw back. Stand firm for I AM standing with you in the gap. And you know here I am  to tell a story. A true one that is. I speak in first person always. So, for those inclined . . .

I shared awhile back in here the disengaging from my family of origin and some believe this is not a loving thing to do. You must stay to the death!! Hmmm... I am a very loving person by nature and a giver truly, which I found out after all the dust cleared from the rubble of demolition in my life. Just was told otherwise all my life and something like a splinter in me kept me in an uneasy state.

So, my Dad is currently having issues with me for what I did. Truly. He cannot understand how I could let go and walk away from my family. Well, he wasn't there you see, and when he was he was very unsuppportive of what was happening to me. He turned his head and walked away and left a child unprotected.

Now I wish to say, I share this without the emotions now. Truly. It is what it is and I only share this due to the prompting to do so. Whomever one is experiencing this very difficult to overcome obstacle of leaving ones' abusive family behind. Be of good cheer and strong heart my friends. BE True to yourself. Respect yourself. Would you, as you will read in one of the two articles being shared here, allow a stranger to treat you the way 'family' does? Hmmm... just shaking up the foundations to prepare for new building. I sent these two articles to my dad to see into this Prodigal child as she is known by her family.

The first article follows. The second I'll share later. While there may be differences in the circumstances per se, the underlying message is the same.

A Course in Miracles says, 'You cannot teach Love, you can only remove the barriers to Love's Presence.' In Yourself. Namaste.

May it bless the hearers and set you Free,

Love to All,

Julia



Family Ties - When to Let Go

By Dr. Margaret Paul
December 31, 2006


It is often challenging to make the decision to let go of abusive family relationships. This article is about when to make that decision.



Ruth consulted with me because she was confused about what to do regarding her mother, her brother, and her son.
From the time Ruth was born, she never felt like she belonged in her family. Her mother ignored Ruth, obviously preferring her brother, and consistently allowed her brother to beat up Ruth. Ruth had some connection with her father, but he was a weak man and never stood up for her or protected her.
 
Ruth was a loving child and tried in any way she could to please her mother and brother, to no avail. She could never understand why her family didn't like her.

As an adult, she married an emotionally unavailable man, a man very much like her mother. As with her mother and brother, she tried in many ways to get his love and never succeeded. Her son, Dylan, was eight years old when they divorced.
 
Dylan always seemed to prefer his father, and finally went to live with his father when he was sixteen. Once again, Ruth was completely in the dark regarding why her son didn't like her. She had been such a devoted mother, so why was he rejecting her?
 
Ruth finally married again, this time to a loving man, and had another child. Her current family was totally different from her previous family and from her family of origin. However, she still hoped to have a relationship with her mother. She would send her mother birthday and Christmas cards, but rarely heard from her. The final blow that sent her to seek my help came when she found out that her son had gotten married without telling her, and that her brother had moved her mother into a nursing home and sold everything without telling her.

Ruth was a shining light of love. Her eyes, her smile, her gestures all radiated love and compassion. Her deeply gentle and peaceful nature was evident at first glance.
 
"Why? Why don't they like me?" she asked.

"Because you are a giver and they are takers," I told her. 'Givers care about others, while takers just want to take from others. You can never give enough to a taker to receive any caring back, because they don't like themselves. They reject themselves and try to get others to give to them. Because they have emotionally abandoned themselves, they are angry at others for not giving enough to them. Your mother and brother were united in their taking from you, as were your first husband and son. They look at you and see a fountain of love coming from you and they want it, but they are incapable of receiving it. Your light contrasts with their darkness and they hate you for it."

"But what can I do?"

"Nothing, other than not be around them. They will suck the life out of you if you allow them to spend time with you. I know you care about them, but they are incapable of caring about themselves or you, so you have to let them go. It is not in your highest good to be with people who are incapable of valuing you - who just want to take from you."

"But can't I help them?"

"No, because they are not asking for help. I know you have believed that if you just love them enough, they will heal and love you back, but this will never happen because they are not open to your love. They feel inadequate in the face of your open heart and their closed hearts, and they take their self-judgment out on you. There is nothing you can to do to help them open their hearts. Only they can do that. It is unlikely your mother or brother will ever open their hearts, but perhaps your son will in time. He will come to you if he does."

"But I have such a great life now. Isn't it selfish of me to just let them go?"
 
"No, it is self-responsible. It is not loving to yourself to be around people who treat you badly."
Ruth understood. She felt sad, but relieved. She finally saw that all she could do was pray for them to open their hearts.

 

[Mina-Laura]

Prayer and meditation are like human ‘soul defrag programs, that many, for what ever the reason, fail to ‘run’ on a regular basis. For many, entering a ‘silent’ time just never happens . Yet like a modern computer, left to idle, the computer will attend to tasks that it is unable to perform while ‘busy’ with running certain programs.  So it behooves one to take some so called ‘idle’ time, to ‘pray and meditate to quell the fires of those undesired, but still running programs that causes one to loose sight of their basic, but true nature, which is ‘Love’.
Any ‘inner program’ that one is running, that is contrary to their true nature, will disrupt the ‘inner tranquility that one can experience.
Recently came into awareness of a beautiful ‘soul program’ called
‘Love’s Pathway’, by Carnelian Sage.

A simple but effective exercise:

1- Close your eyes and breathe deeply 3 or 4 times, while saying the following to yourself:
I am the full expression of Gods Love.
Just as God is Love, so am I.
I am love.

2- Now hold in mind the image of someone you love. (or want to love)
Then imagine yourself putting your arms around that person in a loving embrace while saying ‘I love you’ in your mind. Hold on to this feeling of love, allowing it to spread throughout your entire being.

3- While holding on to this feeling of love, silently say to yourself ‘I feel love’. After a few moments mentally say, ‘I feel God’.  Then finally, in your mind say  ‘Thank you’, allowing the feeling of gratitude and appreciation to wash over you.

4- Remain in this state of ‘being‘ love for a few moments, imagining the love in you radiating outward
 in an egg-shaped sphere of vibratory energy that flows out onto all people, encompassing the world and the universe.

Do this for all that you love and desire to love, not as a one time process, but as a repeatable process, as often as desired to establish a natural feeling of ‘being love’.
Be Well

I think I defragmented my hard drive when I put my arms around you dear Talker 

Good one I loved your computer reference. So true.
So..meditation it is.

[juliainkc]

Hello Everyone,

Here is the second article relating to 'root' causes in our lives. I feel a deep sensing to post these and have come to a place not to wonder why. I leave it on the table for all to take and leave what applies. Many are afraid to look at their family of origin as being the possible cause of why we do the things we do and live the way we live that no longer serve us. I am not sharing this to blame truly. I am saying look at your beginning here and yes, the emotions may rise in the beginning or perhaps take awhile to rise, depends on how deeply one has done the burying. Release and empty and create room to be filled anew.

Once we get free of these things, we are now open to rebuilding our lives from a free and clear foundation grounded on Self Love realization. A flow is sensed going through this thread for a few days now and I am vibing with Talker, Leila's and Sky's expressions on getting down to the glitch or root cause of seeing how we have ourselves created our own pain and suffering and how to be free of it.

Self honesty, standing still and viewing the destructive patterns in our lives and where it all started. Go back and change it from it's root and the rest will take care of itself or flow from there. All things become new.

Here is the second article. While the circumstances vary with each one of us, again, it is the underlying message I am intending to share.

Be tender with yourself in the process.

Love to All in the Divine Spirit of Truth that leads us all to Living from a foundation of LOVE, Peace, Joy and Harmony,

Julia



The Challenge of Families

By Dr. Margaret Paul
Inner Bonding
December 31, 2006



Sometimes the most loving act, both for oneself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive family relationship. In this article, discover how disengaging can eventually bring about a closer family relationship.



Angie grew up in a family where she was the caretaker. The oldest of four, Angie was the only member of her family capable of deep caring, empathy and compassion. As a result, she was always attempting to protect her brother and sisters from her father's physical and emotional abuse. Even her mother learned to turn to her for help and protection. Because everyone learned to rely on Angie, when things didn't turn out the way they wanted, Angie was the one they blamed.
 
Angie became an invisible child. Because of her acute sensitivity to other's feelings and needs, her feelings and needs went unnoticed. Everyone in her family wanted to take from her, but no one wanted to give to her. Angie was not a happy child.

As an adult, Angie did much Inner Bonding work. She discovered that she had been ignoring her own feelings and needs while caretaking others. As she learned to take loving care of herself and let go of taking responsibility for everyone else's feelings and needs, her family became furious with her. How dare she take care of herself instead of them! The blame that Angie had always experienced from her family intensified. Nothing Angie said had any impact on her family's behavior toward her. They refused to support her in taking care of herself. They just wanted her back in the old system.
 
Angie finally decided that, although she loved her family, she needed to disengage from them. She realized that it was not loving to herself to allow her family to continue to treat her badly. She was unwilling to continue the old family system, and she realized that she had no control over how her family treated her. Angie broke almost all communication with her family for three years.
 
Of course, this caused her parents and siblings to blame her even more. During the few times that Angie communicated with her mother, the hostility was extreme. "What is the matter with you? Have you gone nuts? How can you abandon your family? You are being so selfish! Don't you care about us?" Angie knew that it was useless to try to explain. Her mother didn't really want to know the answers to these questions - she just wanted to have control over Angie.
 
It took three years before anyone in her family started to treat Angie with any sense of respect. It took three years before they accepted that they could no longer treat her badly if they wanted a relationship with her. Presently, Angie has a much better relationship with her family. While they will never have the deep caring and compassion for her that she has for them, they no longer expect her to take responsibility for their feelings and needs, and they no longer blame her for the problems that arise.
 
The question of disengaging from one's family, or from a particular member of the family, often comes up in my counseling work with individuals and couples. Many people have been taught that it is wrong to pull away from one's family - that one should keep the family unit intact at all costs. Many people have been taught that it is loving to sacrifice themselves for their family, and selfish to take care of themselves.

The problem with these beliefs is that it gives a person, who is being blamed and disrespected by their family, no way out. Many of the people I work with, who have problems with their families, know that they would never allow a stranger to treat them the way their family treats them. Yet they feel afraid if they think about speaking up for themselves, and guilty if they think about disengaging from an emotionally abusive family relationship.
 
Sometimes the most loving act, both for oneself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive relationship. It is not loving to ourselves to allow ourselves to be treated disrespectfully, and it is not loving to others to allow them to treat us disrespectfully. Angie's whole family is much better off today than before she disengaged, even though they were furious at her for it. Through her Inner Bonding practice, Angie discovered that it is actually very loving to them to expect them to treat her with caring and respect.

 

[Talker]

Yeah, though I walk the valley of chatter,
find only one thing will matter,
many chatter the matter and shout,
on things they know little about,
my truth is not their truth,
nor their truths, mine.
We stand beside, a billion belief locks,
belief locks, openings, look all the same,
for that, their is no blame,
but in our hand, is but 'one true key',
a life time spent, just to see,
which lock is there, waiting for me,
for you see, we have but 'one' true key.
Be Well

  May be no poet, but the message I believe, is there.
http://www.ourultimatereality.com/forums/welcome-to-the-introductions-and-chat-forum-t304.0.html;msg15537#msg15537

Greetings All Sharing and Loving Souls,

What magnificent flow of energies being set into motion here, and throughout this forum.
So easy to get caught up in in the tunnel of ones existing problems and difficulties, that the future looks bleak and ever so dire, with no light being seen at the end of the tunnel. I mention in the enclosed post above, 'a billion belief locks' and a 'one true key. So easy to get caught up in a false 'for you' belief, that ones many little difficulties, takes over as the 'big' picture in your adventures. What to do! Read the various posts, and winnow out the 'keys' that may be an answer for a few of the 'little difficulties'. Apply the concept offered, and see 'how or if' it helps in any way. You may have to wiggle or mix and match a few concepts to find the 'key' that works for your situation. Yes, it may take great effort and maybe a little time, but your worth it aren't you! All problems, difficulties and success, are actually founded on some type of 'belief' rooted in some part of you. Whether that belief energy is a help or a hindrance, depends on how you arrived at it. A few childhood rejections, a cranky teacher, or a wonderful teacher, a good paying job or a rotten paying job, and the list goes on, are all part and parcel of implanting your 'beliefs' into your life experiences. Look for the 'keys' offered here and in other posts, cherry pick if you have to, there may be an answer (key) to all the 'load' you might be carrying.  Eventually with your efforts, you will find that 'one' special ' true key', that becomes your ' Master Key' to stabilize all your 'life experience' energies.
Don't waste all the love energies being offered here, may be why Source got us all together.
Be Well

[juliainkc]

Ah My Beloved Friend Talker,

Good day all. I truly appreciate your Wise words, InSights and Loving expressions. They vibe with me deeply.

Getting down to the root cause as in First ~ Familial and Second ~ Social Environment as Talker so aptly shares, school experiences, job related experiences, relationship experiences outside of the relationships of origin. A scavenger hunt of sorts. We tend to accept it so much as being a part of whom we are, we go on autopilot and the while the pot is boiling over on the stove while we sit close by in la la land and wonder how the heck did I do it again? Repeat the pattern.

Pay attention! Pain is a great 'teacher' however, once you uncover and remove the root cause, the splinter, pain is released and you can now evolve into Love being the great 'teacher' in your life because you are growing from the root of Self Love founded on the Creator Source of Love. You've made the Connection of your True Building Block.

Julia, you said earlier that noone can teach Love. Yes to 'another'. Because we are our own student and teacher and this is TRUE for all. How's that? Well, can you think your thoughts while entertaining the thoughts of what you think another is having about you or anything? I haven't found that to be so yet. It's like serving two masters. You'll either love the one or hate the other. It's called being separated from oneself. So, bring yourself back in and be United in yourself and allow the same for another. Focus on your own thoughts and allow another theirs. If they think for you then they are dividing themself and you do not have to participate in this at all. Choose. Your choice and theirs. Simple. But not always easy to let go of doing because it has become habitual and we all like and covet our little habits. We tend to be creatures of habit, all of us. Daily rituals. Keep them loosely yet be open to change and newness.

So, it begins and ends (in earthly terms) with you. But what about all the assholes? What about other assholes? Just worry about yours. Pardon me folks, just my sense of humor! Been there and done that! And once you worry about yours you will find more and more that you don't need to worry about others because it was Divinely designed to perform its function naturally and it does when you realize it. It has the natural ability to let go. A release valve so to speak. Again, pardon my humor. Now your asshole becomes a blessing (sometimes in disguise). Which leads to my quirky humor of sharing my change of perception from asshole to angel. Energy change in me from fear to LOVE changes everything in my life. My Eyes, My Ears, My Heart, My Mind, My overall Well Being. And it shows up in my world by those I make contact with everyday.

What I shared above is like the Zen statement I shared awhile back with Louis, Can anyone pee for you?

Your life is in your hands. You've had the Power all along to Be in your Authentic God Self Nature. You hold the key to the Universe in your hands right now as Talker shares and has been sharing for quite some while and I whole heartedly support this amazing wonder's way of expressing this. Namaste Talker!!

On that note, InJoy this day. For those so inclined I wrote an article in my blog a few days ago on the idea behind Sacred Alchemy and Sacred Geometry, the Inspired Art of Home ReBuilding. I leave the open to all invitation on the table as always.

Love to you all today, relax and allow yourself to experience being here now in completion of Being a Fully Functioning form of Love Energy,

Julia


http://www.you-nique-by-design.com/sacred-alchemy-sacred-geometry-esoteric-home-remodeling/

[Leila]

This speaks alot to me...

Much Love to All,

Leila

Create Authentic Closure

Tuesday, 11 August 2009 19:17 Stephanie Florman Life

http://www.evolvethe.com/wisdom/life/530-create-authentic-closure

To fully experience authentic closure, several things must occur:
Remember that closure is not necessarily the call to end the relationship. Closure is the call to end the dynamics that do not serve you in the relationship.

Recognize what you have learned from your interactions with the person with whom you seek closure. Make a list of all that this relationship has shown you.

Let go of two negative needs: the need for the other person to give you anything, and the need to understand that person; as both of those needs will keep you going back for more.

Consider that someone not giving you what you think you need from them is the answer to your prayers. In a perfectly evolving universe, if they should have given you something specific...they would have! Beyond that, if another were to give you what you thought you needed from them, you would never know how powerfully you could meet your own needs.

Use what you believe you need from another as the launch point that will lead to clarity. After you recognize your perceived needs, find creative and inspiring ways to give those things to yourself. You have everything required to meet your own needs.

Trust that you have all of the information that you need at this time, and that any information you still need will be revealed. The only way that you are not guaranteed to experience closure is by making someone else responsible for it.

Embrace what you resist. When you try to ignore, run from, or push away what you are attracting, you strengthen its pull towards you. Remember that nothing disappears - it merely transforms.

Feel your feelings: Your feelings are all valid. They are only energy. Your feelings provide you with messages from your spirit. Embrace them and release them. They are your responsibility to process.

Find your peace in knowing that you have said all that you could say and you have done all you could do. Most importantly, align with the understanding that you are saying what you need to say for yourself and taking inspired actions so that you can move forward. Often this type of sharing does not need to happen with the other person involved. I choose to share this with my counselor and my Angels, and do not share it with any other until I am in a place of clarity within myself.

Love Yourself! One way to express 'Self-Love' is to allow others to have their perceptions of you -- without internalizing their perceptions of you. Stop trying to convince another person that you are good or that they need you. The more you try to convince them of this, the less they will agree with you.

Have boundaries. After you complete any unfinished business that you were accountable for, realize that you do not owe this person anything. You do not need to talk to them, you do not need to answer their calls and you do not need to take care of them. Allow this person to receive the consequences of their choices. Let go of the need to know their answers.

Decide if you want to be right or if you want to learn the lesson. If you attach solely to being right, you lose sight of the opportunity being presented to you and tend to re-experience it again and again -- until you are willing to see the truth.

Channel your regrets. Regret is an energy that clearly shows you the negative consequences of your past choices. You cannot change your past choices, but you can learn from them and choose differently the next time.

Make a decision and have integrity with your word. There is great power that reveals itself to you when you make a decision. Ambivalence will attract ambivalence. Clarity will attract clarity. Trust will cleanse. Faith will heal. Even if you are not sure if you want your relationship to end, at least give yourself permission to fully explore why you are considering an ending. I encourage you to do this without the influence of the other person.

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[juliainkc]

Wonderful progression of thoughts here. Thank you Leila.

Personal responsibility. Ownership of one's own life. I do see the tendency and potential of ones misunderstanding the idea of service to others. It is by Being a Living Example of Self Love, an ambassador of Good Will or GOD's Will, which is in Being One Love Energy Presence. That is the best service you can give to anyother. It reveals to them the freedom they have to choose Self Love too by revealing the Source of this LOVE. Freewill to choose IT by Impowering them in Love and Wisdom. We cannot learn another's lessons for them. Not even our children's.

We share IT without giving IT away. Giving it away implies losing a part of ourself by leaving bits of ourselves in others in measured out portions. It is meant to flow in constant Energy streaming motion. Not wavering, steady and unending. We remain fully intact yet our Core radiates IT and touches the ones who cross our paths and leave LOVE's impression like sunshine on ones skin, the Sun does not lose its power by touching our skin.

Projections tend to leave a mark, a piece of oneself somewhere. LOVE Energy brushes IT Self upon others like wind on the skin. The Impression is felt and Love remains in the Heart long after the physical sensations have passed. Projections leave something under the skin and causes discomfort, an unrest whether longing for more or less of something or someone, a loss of Love Energy is usually felt.

Otherwise, we are just putting bandages over our wounds and are setting ourselves up to repeat the patterns over and over again. Treating the symptoms yet never getting down to the Heart of the matter. Like when ones are attempting to change their habits and do it only on the surface such as dieting or quitting smoking.

If the real cause is not dealt with, the reason for creating this condition in ones life, then one will replace it with another habit. Has anyone ever noticed that ones who quit smoking have a tendency to gain weight due to replacing the fixation with another such as eating? I am not passing judgement here truly. I am saying look at this without emotion and observe. The real cause was not dealt with, only the outer symptom masking the inner cause.

Closure is only possible when we do it in the Divine Sequential Order. We cannot receive our healing by skipping steps, healing comes after the realization of an injury or illness, following the steps of self examination that lead to the cause or source of the dis-ease. Otherwise we are swinging blindly with eyes closed and missing the mark and remain unwell.

Find the point of entry of the wound, open it up, let the festering out, cleanse out the wound and then it will naturally close up and heal. Sometimes this takes a stepping away from or back from others for a season, a removing of ourself from the ones who keep reopening the wound and pouring salt into it. We cannot reach a state of Well Being without Being Silent, Still and in a place of Peaceful Resting and heal under these conditions. Again, we cannot learn another's lessons for them. Only our own. We cannot save anyone truly. It was never intended to be this way.

Each one is given full ability and to say otherwise is to reinforce a lack in another which reveals a lack within ourself. Truly.

I say this with all GOD intentions. Know yourself first and the rest will take care of IT Self.

Peace, Harmony, Joy embracing you in the Light of LOVE,

Julia

[juliainkc]

Hmm...


Just sharing a prompt with you all. Will you open yourself today to consider this idea?


The world does not 'need saving', this includes those around us whose behavior 'seems' unloving towards us and others.

The world is being called to Awaken, to Rise up from its sleeping state. And this includes the ones I just mentioned.

Moving from Inter ~ dependency into InterConnectedness. Big difference.

And we see this when we Wake up.

May this be received in the Spirit with which it is shared.

In the Spirit of Love, Power and Wisdom,

Julia

[Skyalmian]

Find the point of entry of the wound, open it up, let the festering out, cleanse out the wound and then it will naturally close up and heal. Sometimes this takes a stepping away from or back from others for a season, a removing of ourself from the ones who keep reopening the wound and pouring salt into it. We cannot reach a state of Well Being without Being Silent, Still and in a place of Peaceful Resting and heal under these conditions.

/just highlighting a personally pertinent part that stuck out more than the rest... Some things cannot be healed if there are distractions constantly sending energy intentionally or unintentionally / directly or indirectly into the issue to be resolved. Note that it isn't their fault / problem, they're just mirroring the own inner issue back.

[zensunni7]

The Human race is evolving out of clan living - what do with a race of leaders, Self leading, Self responsible, Self driven and Self evolving. What will we do?

Something else.

[juliainkc]

The Human race is evolving out of clan living - what do with a race of leaders, Self leading, Self responsible, Self driven and Self evolving. What will we do?

Something else.

Man of a few words yet LOVE profoundly shared and felt.

Namaste Darrell,

In LOVE's Spirit,


Julia