Hi,
So I have often heard in the newsletters and elsewhere the concept of "service to others before service to self." While I understand that service is great, I thought that one must take care of himself before he is able to care for others. Am I missing something here?
Hi,
So I have often heard in the newsletters and elsewhere the concept of "service to others before service to self." While I understand that service is great, I thought that one must take care of himself before he is able to care for others. Am I missing something here?
Dear bpasc,
Welcome to the forums - although I see thisis your second contribution.
Nothing is "missing" - in absolute terms. We Are Whole.
Let me assure you of this though - from my own experience.
We must first Give - from The Heart - only then we may Receive.
But I must add a caveat, lest what I have just shared be misunderstood.
Giving can never be a motive for Receiving.
With Lots of Love,
Adrian.
Dear and beloved friends - beautiful exchange - which brings much forth from own knowing.
Bpasc I agree with you - for us humans is a process of growth - as for any creature.
First and foremost of course we must care of our (your) Self, grow, to become that which can be a true resource for others.
When this 'growth' process is completed we come to see we cannot possibly exist if we do not bring our contribution to others, which ideally should be a joyous giving from the heart - for only through that our existence is meaningful.
As humans as creatures we were built with selfishness (self before others) and for a good reason which is meant for survival. As we have a higher built than other creatures and animals we come to understand this as Ego. Only through 'inner work' this selfishness egotistical tendency can be transformed into an offering which late on we come to see that as it benefits other it actually serves us.
It is on giving that we receive. - when this is understood at very deep level it is a remarkable stage in a person's life.
And of course one cannot 'give' that which he doesn't have - so by all means first and foremost must take care of Self - of course not at the expense of another - and when we are good and solid on who we are and what we can bring forth service comes as a pleasure of giving.
And as Adrian put it so wonderfully "Giving can never be a motive for Receiving." - you can see the selfishness in this - the reason being that when we give under such terms we always expect something in return and when it doesn't come we set ourselves for disappointment and of course pain, remorse, reactivity - all that stuff that brings our growth down...
We are whole of course - how Adrian beautifully put it - because we have been given all the perception to understand this, and what we can 'see' understand we can easily create in life.
Love and Blessings
Laura
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