EFT Healing - Emotional Freedom Technique

[Talker]

First of all I thank you both for you quick and insight full responses,

First I will try and better explain my feelings and when this happens. This usually happens to me at school, not at a specific time but because of a trigger. The trigger is always usually a social trigger and the feeling I guess would be abandonment as Laura said. Because what usually happens is someone will say or do something or whisper something or I won't hear the entire sentence someone says and I will interpret it the WORST possible way. What I usually feel is something along the lines of "They did/said this because they don't like me, they don't want to be my friend anymore" (Writing this I feel pretty childish the way this sounds. But when it actually happens inside me it feels much more complicated and sophisticated)
I think that's the best way I could describe it. When it comes to diet I do eat meat, but I'll never have like a whole meal of just meat. It be combination of rice,meat and a vegetable or two.
And also another thing I found out was because reading the two replies and thinking about it made me and happy, not sure why but I am glad it did. What what I realized is that even happy positive feelings I always feel in the same place as well (at the center of the chest, exactly where I feel my negative feelings.) All my life all my feelings have always been concentrated in that area and I always thought that was normal till in the EFT intro video he always says Where do you feel this feeling, and I realized I always feel all feelings in pretty much the exact same place.
And also thanks for the tip about Chakra clearing I have seen that video and I will do it once a day?
And Laura thanks a lot for this response and all your other responses as well, I usually get these negative feelings when I am at school or with people, so it can be hard to get to a quiet place right when I feel these feelings. But thanks for the advice I try do something along these
lines when I get home after feeling these feelings. But cannot get into a meditative state by myself yet I can with the help of NLP audios.

Also it is quite amazing how your other two points related to me so greatly. First your tip about the bible and the Buddhist book. This tip made be remember what happened 3 years ago. 3 years ago I was in grade 8 and for whatever reason I was feeling down. And that day we were doing something with bible studies so it wouldn't look weird if I just went to the back and grabbed a bible. But for some reason this is exactly what I did and flipped to a random page and read a random verse. And I remember this really helped me, I felt better and it gave me an answer. And at this time I was not a wise? as I am now. What I mean is I hadn't started this journey consciously then. But I only did this once, not sure why I never did it again, I don't think I had a bible that was easy to understand in my house then. I think I will do this now, when ever I can. But another thing I thought about was that this wouldn't do much because I have been reading about Christianity and how they are not really helping us, and the way it controls its peoples. So I was thinking wouldn't the bible maybe have a negative effect? But then maybe
its not really the bible that is giving me the answer but my higher-self? my subconscious? giving me the answer but using the bible as the vehicle to get the answer to me?

Also I share your views on Buddhism 100%. I also think it is very helpful because there is a lot of wisdom contained in it. And also they meditation practices and stuff like that. But I went to Sunday school for Buddhism for 2 years and it did feel really negative, and it did really feel like I couldn't really be happy all the time. I think this was what I was trying to get cleared up with my first post about Buddhism in the religions section.

On a side note, ever since being on this path and learning a lot I had always wanted to talk to my parents about it and I wanted to enlighten them too. And over last weekend I finally got that opportunity, forgot how the conversation started exactly but it was amazing. It turns out that my parents are also on a good path. My father listens to Ajahn Brahm who is really a wise monk, not like the dogmatic corrupt unwise monks in Sri Lanka my dad always says. Also he also knew a lot about the stuff I was talking about like Astral Planes, OBE. But I guess
the biggest surprise was so did my mom. She has realized that the church's teachings are not true and that they are keeping things from us. Her enlightenment came from a book shes reading '50 lives, 50 masters' something along those lines where the author talks about reincarnation and how she can remember her lives and how even in the bible they talk about reincarnation. Not sure why but I really wanted to share this experience with you all. Thanks for listening.

And Love and Great appreciation for all the help
Thanks a lot.

P.S - Before writing this I thought this was going to be a really short post, turned out to be the opposite lol.

Hi emon878,
You felt happy, due to being touched by 'Love'. Many words are used by various types of healers to describe what you are feeling and experiencing. Lets cut to the quick of it. You feel rotten or unloved at a level of being, where  those feeling really know how to hurt. Don't hide or emotionalize the negs that come up. Going to sound silly, but 'talk' to those inner voices, that I refer to as 'babblers'. Yes, I know exactly what you mean when you stated 'But when it actually happens inside me it feels much more complicated and sophisticated'. Every level of your awareness is being fed by that untrained inner babbler. The little sucker knows how to really make it hurt.

http://thetalker.org/archives/210/1-conversations-with-me/
 
Start using a trigger word to practice with. Now use as is, or slightly modify what is written here to be comfortable with doing it.

First do this one, eyes open or closed:
1- Imagine a pinpoint of light within you around the navel area. Feel and  know, that this is your contact point with a Source of unlimited energy, power and love.
2- See this light vibrating and pulsing outward in all directions through your body, until you are surrounded on all sides by a field of vibrating, pulsing light.
3- As you inhale, imagine more of this light brilliantly intensifying, and as you exhale , see the light around you get even brighter and pulsing stronger.
4- Capture that feeling as a reference point, keeping your awareness of it as long as possible.
5- Do this as often as you can for practice. Needs to become as normal as blinking the eyes.
6- Comfortable with it now, we modify it here for another use.
7- Repeat steps 1, 2 and 3, then:
8- Imagine this light that now surrounds you, as being able to melt and    neutralize 'all' negativity before it even reaches you. Now here is an important aspect. Use a keyword or special signal that will 'pop' this 'reference point of feeling' into active mode automatically, whenever you need it applied. Use step 3, to reinforce step 8, as often as you feel the need to reinforce it.

Now, it will take practice, to enable this protection to activate at will.
So spend time doing it.
Do what ever it takes to get the routine down to a perfect, automatic and active trigger point.
This works, believe me. My trigger point has saved my fanny many times over the years.
Be Well

[Praveen]

Thanks again for another wonderful response. I thank you for the exercise you have given me I can see
its potential and I will try it now. But when you said "but 'talk' to those inner voices, that I refer to as 'babblers'"
but exactly do you mean?

Like should I try and convince them that they are wrong, and give examples of why there are wrong? Should
I listen to them? I ask because I know when I get these voices my judgment? gets very clouded everything
(the truth) seems to shift a little in order to prove the babblers are right.

Thanks again.

[Talker]

Hi emon878,
Just as I said, these 'inner' voices, are coming to mind, after being 'triggered' by some outside influence. Lets break it down now into a more understandable process. First, realize that there is nothing wrong with you, regards how you respond or react to these negative feelings. We all respond to conscious and/or unconscious energies differently.
(I'm purposely not going to use certain accepted terms/words here to describe some feelings)
When one feels lousy, they can just go through the day being mean, angry, upset, abandoned, sick, unhappy, jealous, unloved, unwanted and so on. Any of these 'lousy' feelings' felt are your own personal way of expressing 'some thing' from inside of you, having been 'triggered' from any of the past, present or perceived future somethings, that may or not not be true. Look at each of these words 'mean, angry, upset, abandoned, sick, unhappy, jealous, unloved, unwanted' as being a separate 'babbler' inside you some where. Don't get hung up with specifics here, as many do. Who cares if it's 'conscious and/or unconscious energies'! What matters though, is when one is actually experiencing them. Nine (there are more) babblers each trying to get you to listen to their chatter. It actually drives some people nuts and they wind up in jail, asylums, becoming recluses, or using medications. Now I won't pretend to have all the answers, but I do know what worked for me. We all can feel good days. We all can feel off days. We all can feel super days. We all can feel super spiritual highs. We all can feel gloriously alive times. But some times, one has to do a little corrective action, to mostly feel the good stuff, most of the time. Don't know why, but it is so easy to give in to sloppy, poor me feelings. Must be a reason for it being so easy, but I don't know what that reason is.
 (actually I do, but most would refuse to acknowledge it)
So lets pick one to show an example.
I read the word 'abandonment', in the post, so lets use that word here.
We also need to use the famous or infamous five 'W's' in various ways.
We also need to overlook being labeled nuts, for doing this 'normal insanity' thing.

Here are some questions to ask, no particular order:

Hi abandonment, Who are you! ---
 
Hi abandonment, Why are you in my attention! ---

Hi abandonment, What are you looking for! ---

Hi abandonment, Where are you headed! ---

Hi abandonment, When are you going to leave! ---

Hi abandonment, What  would it take to help you feel loved! ---

Can apply more questions as they come up, and there are many more.
Modify or change the method to your comfort level, but keep the questions clear and simple.
(angry, upset, sick, unhappy, jealous, unloved, unwanted, etc, all get this same treatment)

OK, so get into a mellow, meditative mood, relax, breathe nice and easy, inhale slowly, exhale slowly, close your eyes here, and ask your questions. Allow a few moments for the inner chatter to quite down and it will, because now, you are taking control. Do allow plenty of time for the addressed babbler to present it's feelings.
These energies are the inner YOU in action.
They are neither good nor bad, only energy feelings that need sorting out.
This is a learning curve, so will take a little time and practice to master it. Source is always with you, learn to listen to the True Source. Become Unconditional Love, and view all life as beautiful poetry in motion.
Yes, I know , sounds nuts to be talking to ones self like this. Just don't go around blabbing out, that you talk to your self like that. Yes, it is kinda crazy to talk to ones self like that. But like the EFT process, it works.  Why worry. More can be said, but for now......
Be Well

[Freedom]

Hi Talker
I loved this post and thank you for it.

One thing you said : 'that you know the reason why people find it so easy to give in to the sloppy, poor me feelings.  Most people dont want to know, but you do.'

I would like to know. I am interested. I can handle the harsh truth. You can just address it to me, if you dont want most people to acknowedge it for themselves. Just address it to me in this forum. I am happy to find out what you say you know.

Also, are the five 'W's . . Who, What, When , Where, Why ?  '

Someone, was it Buddha, said: there is no Why - There is only Thus. 

Thats what I do whenever I get confused.... I try to get into that flow of Thus. In other words, it is what it is. Or something like that. I am slowly getting into the flow of not questioning. But, at the same time, still questioning.  Hmmmm...


This is the most awesome post from you so far, Talker.   

I love your writings, no kidding. 

Love 

[Praveen]

Thanks a lot Talker again, I know that these two practices you have showed is going to
help me the next time I get these feelings. (I figured out the feelings I usually get is unwanted
and unloved)

So thanks again for this I will most definitely remember to do both exercises next time I get these feelings
the great thing is I can do these exercises pretty much anywhere.

And I would also like to know why you think it is easier for us to give into these poor me feelings.

Much Love and Gratitude

Thank You

[Talker]

Freedom
Also, are the five 'W's . . Who, What, When , Where, Why ?  '

emon878
And I would also like to know why you think it is easier for us to give into these poor me feelings.

Hi emon878, Freedom, and all Sharing Souls,
Thank you both for the kind words.
Was rather wordy, but was the only way to even get close to a meaningful series of words.

Yes to the five 'W's'.

The answer I didn't show, and you both are inquiring about, is (synchronicity in play) shown in Adrian's Newsletter today. Now I will say, there is no sign that says 'here is what Talker was hinting at'. But it is there, clear and as bright as a cloudless sunny day, but NOT exactly in my kind of way, in saying them. Make this an exercise in understanding 'what I did not say' in words, and finding them in the Newsletter.
Be Well

[soulconsole]

This is my first introduction to EFT and I found out that is:

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is an emotional, needle free version of acupuncture that is based on new discoveries regarding the connection between your body's subtle energies, your emotions, and your health. EFT has been reported successful in thousands of cases covering a huge range of emotional, health and performance issues. It often works where nothing else will.

Here is an introductory video:
http://www.emofree.com/splash/video_popup.asp

OMG!!! ANother Amazing healing method!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!!!! for bringing this up to my Eyees!!!
lol     THank YOu Talker too
 I will do this!! Hah! *sigh Life is GOOD    LG   (._.)

[Mina-Laura]

Dera All,

An update on this:

http://www.newrealities.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=314&Itemid=914


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